8 Things You Can Do Today to Boost Your Confidence and Self Esteem
We all have days when we feel like we don’t measure up. If you want to boost your confidence and self esteem, start with these 8 simple exercises.
We all have those days where it’s just too hard to pull yourself out of the comforting embrace that is your bed. It’s hard to motivate yourself when you get up and go gas meter is on absolute zero. This can make things miserable when you have to force yourself to go to work or school.
There are just days where it’s more than tempting to call out. There are a few self-care steps that you can take to push back these feelings. Here are 8 ways to increase your confidence and self-esteem and get back to conquering your day in full throttle.
1. Clean Yourself Up
It’s hard to be confident if you don’t look the part. There is a reason why the saying goes dress for success. It actually works.
Not only will being clean increase your confidence but nothing relaxes the body quite like the hot water of a shower. The clothes you wear has an impact on how you feel, this doesn’t mean you need to wear a thousand dollar outfit though.
Sometimes just putting on a shirt without holes, or getting out of a bed shirt and into a nice pair of jeans and a blouse or button-down can give you confidence.
2. Shutup your Inner Critic
Everyone has this inner voice that whispers venomous words in their ear. Most of the time these words aren’t true, but we’re our own worst critic. This voice is the enemy and you want to treat it as such.
When that little voice starts up, close your eyes, and think of a trigger word to get it to hush its lies. This could just be telling it to stop, or if you want to yell at it to shut up, that works too.
3. You’re You
Sometimes, when watching a friend or family member’s success, you begin to compare yourself to them. You might be envious that they are getting married before you, or they nailed that high paying desk job while you still work retail.
It’s easy for this to make you feel like you are failing or just not going at the right pace in life. You have to remember that your success is coming and just keep working at it. You’re you and that’s good enough.
You don’t have to compare yourself to everyone around you. If you remember this, you’ll be amazed at what it can do for your confidence and self-esteem.
4. Always Be Prepared
If you aren’t prepared for a situation that you’re being thrown into, your confidence and self-esteem may plummet.
For example, say you have a job interview and you decide to just wing it instead of researching the company beforehand, you may feel underprepared and this will cause the interview to not go as well as it could have.
Instead of putting yourself in that situation, take the time to mentally and emotionally prepare.
5. Speak Slowly
When you speak quickly not only is it really hard to understand you, but it doesn’t exactly do wonders for your confidence either. It seems like you’re trying to hurry and say your peace because you’re afraid of boring the person you’re talking to, or speak before you’re interrupted.
Next time you speak, try to slow down your speech so others can understand you. If you’re worried about being interrupted, make them listen in ways that don’t involve you speeding up. You could just politely inform the person that you’re speaking to that you weren’t done.
6. Stand Tall
This can be difficult if you’re used to slouching but if you change your posture, not only will it look like you have more confidence, but you’ll feel it too. If you’re slouched you look unapproachable.
When you stand tall you’re immediately more attractive to others. If you’re finding it difficult, imagine a string on top of your head that is pulling you upward.
7. Talk Yourself Up
When you have a voice in your head that is reprimanding you for every little thing, you need to talk yourself up to counteract it. You can just tell it to stop, or you can spend some time building your confidence and self-esteem yourself.
You can do this by making little notes for yourself, for example before you go to bed at night write down three things that you like about yourself. Keep a journal for this purpose. It sounds silly, but while your brain can be a horrible critic, it can be a therapist as well.
8. No One is Perfect
Nobody can be perfect all the time. Perfection is an unrealistic goal, but what you can do is do good enough. As long as you do your best then you have nothing to be ashamed of.
If you keep this idea of perfection in your head it will destroy more than just your sanity. It can get in the way of jobs, projects, and even relationships. So, do the best you can, but as far as shooting for perfect, don’t waste the stress.
Ways to Raise Your Confidence and Self Esteem
Some days are more difficult than others, and sometimes you never make it out of bed. There ways to give yourself the confidence and self-esteem that you need to get back to school and work. Just concentrate on you and the rest will come later. You’re doing fine.
It might seem like it’s impossible sometimes, but there are ways to live a stress-free life. If you don’t believe us, you can go here to learn more about living without stress.
Picture David Calderon